The concept that caught my attention was “Commitment”. The book says commitment is a decision to stay in a relationship. When I first read this I was shocked because I thought you had to feel like you were in love and that was the commitment. But the reasoning for saying commitment is a decision because you decide to have a long-term relationship. You decide to stay committed to someone because you assume you will be together in a relationship. You could love someone but not see you with him or her in a couple of year. That is why you make a decision to not have a commitment with someone. An example I used was my present boy friend I met when I was twelve and I really liked him even when I was little I knew I would still being talking to him when I was older. We lost connection for a year but reunited when we were fifteen. I knew I would be with him in the future. So I made the decision to be in a committed relationship and we have been together since!
Hi Nessa, I related to your post because I am also in a committed relationship. I enjoyed reading about commitment as well and I liked that Wood pointed out that it is a decision rather than a feeling. In committed relationships you rarely focus on the fact that you are choosing to be in the relationship. Healthy relationships that have a lot of love and happiness seem to make the choice of commitment easier for those involved. When people are in unhealthy relationships many of them are still choosing to be in them for various reasons even if their feelings tell them they should leave. I know that I made the choice to be in my current relationship just as I made the choice to continue dating. Once I started to love her I saw myself in a long-term relationship and we are still together because we both choose this commitment.
ReplyDeleteHi Nessa,
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed reading your post. Although I was unable to relate to you about being in a committed relationship since I have never been in a relationship at all, I thought you made some valid points. Your post also helped me for future reference as well because the reason why I have not been in a committed relationship or a relationship at all is because I have not met a guy who will be willing to be committed let alone who will be able to handle me. As you mentioned in your post that commitment is about making a decision to stay in a relationship. Although I am not or have not been in a committed relationship, I have a friend who has been in a committed relatinship with a guy even though a lot of people question why she is in it. I agree that you could love someone but not see yourself with that person in a year or two. That is also why a lot of people are afraid of commitment because they know that means, it will require a lot of work and dedication. Not everyone can handle being in a committed relationship because the idea of it scares them. I have seen that happen between two people often where one individual is afraid to be with the same person or they are afraid they will lose their freedom. Bottom line, commitment should not be a frightening or intimidating thing, it should be something that makes people happy if they really care about someone. I hope I will be able to be in a committed relationship one day and if and when that time comes, I will remember that commitment is a choice, and it is our decision to decide if we choose to stay in the relationship or not.
Great post overall!
-little miss daisy