EXPRESSED DISAGREEMENT

The concept that I wanted to discuss is Expressed Disagreement in chapter nine. I thought this was important because it talks about people and how they communicate their disagreements with each other: Directly and Indirectly. Something that I found interesting is when Wood sates “ Interpersonal conflict is expressed disagreement, struggle, or discord. Thus it is not a conflict if we don’t recognize disagreement or anger,” (224). This was interesting because a disagreement is not a conflict until people show their disagreement either directly or indirectly. Which means that when people don’t show how they feel then there is not a conflict.  Directly showing your disagreement is when you say something to the other person that shows how you feel because how you are saying something. When someone shows they disagree indirectly they can’t look at someone with a mean face. This lets the other person know that you are angry. You don’t even need to say something for someone to know how you feel.

MY FAVORITES!

My favorite thing out this class was the discussion questions. I thought these really helped me to better understand each chapter. I also was able to put my own experiences into most of the discussions. This helped me because it helped to improve my communication with a variety of people. I also liked the discussions because we were able to pick out a concept we thought was interesting. I thought this was good because we are able to pick what we want to write about and this helps because we tend to write more on something were interested about.  I really enjoyed the comments that we had to post on other students blog. This gave us a way to communicate good and read their opinions and personal experiences about the discussion question. I think I learned a lot from the other students by doing this.

There was nothing that was really bad in this class. I thought everything was pretty easy. The only thing I would say that was my least favorite was the essays (only because I don’t like writing essays :D).

WHAT I HAVE LEARNED....

I have learned a lot in COMM 10 this semester. I think I have learned helpful information that improved my communication with others. I learned that we need to understand ourselves and how we think of ourselves. I learned what makes a good relationship, which is good communication. In communication there are many parts that go with it. Communication is about listening and understanding others and giving them respect. I learned that there are many ways to communicate good and bad with both friends and partners. We need to respect their thoughts on things and learn when to not interrupt others because to have good communication with others we need to listen. I think communications helped me a lot because I had a lot of bad communication habits but I was not a where of them. This class taught me how to be respectful to other through communication. I learned that how you communicate with others really matters because people base you on how you communicate towards them.

FUTURE!

I think that marriage will change a lot in fifty years. I think our generation is very diverse and more open to different kinds of relationships that a re socially acceptable. We see more gay and lesbian couples now then before when it was not seen as “right”. However I think that we will see a change in laws that have to do with people marrying. I also think that we will see a lower percent of divorces in the future. I think people need to think long and hard before they say their vows. Because I believe when you say, “for better or for worse” or “till death do us part” you really need to mean and not bail when it gets tough.  People should try a little harder cause obviously marriage is hard and a big commitment but if your not ready then don’t jump into it.   So I hope to see more people staying in their marriages and I also hope to see equality for all types of diverse couples.

DIVERSE FORMS OF FAMILY!

The concept that really intrigued me this week was “Diverse Forms of Families”. I never really thought about how diverse some families could be. When I was younger I use to think a family was a mom, dad, and kids. However as I got older things changed. My parents decided to divorce and I lived with my mom and rarely saw my dad. After it was just my mom and my three sisters and my brother. This was our new family. Because of this I do not think the same as I did when I was younger a family is not just a mom, dad, and kids there are so many ways to have a family. Also the book it states that same sex couples cohabit together and they have adopted children. I personally would count this as family because a family could be made of anyone and any gender. I think as long as love for which they are with or raising is present it counts as a family. We live in a diverse society and I have learned that everyone does not think one way and is different in their own ways.

FAMILY! =D

Family is not necessarily just people who are blood related to you. I think family is the people who you are close to you and care for you. The people that would do anything for you and loves you for you. So I would define family as: the people who are blood related to you plus the others that care for you and love you like your blood family. What I think family members do for each other is just care and love each other, are there for you when you need them, and support you through anything. However not all families are the same and believe in this but this is how I grew up. The relationship types that I think fit my definition of “family” are vital marriage and total marriage: because the closeness emotionally and physically is there and there is still love and passion in the relationships.

The relationships types that don’t fit my definition are devitalized marriage and conflict-habituated marriage.

LOVE + COMMITMENT= HAPPY LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP

I have not experienced a relationship where there was not commitment or love present. However one of my family members has experienced this (we talk to each other about everything).  She had recently broke up with her girlfriend because she was not committed and wanted to take a break. However there was no doubt in the relationship about love but her girlfriend did not want to be in a commitment (she was not ready).  In the end they decided to break up and go their own ways. Her girlfriend did not want to make the decision of still being with the same person in the future. In conclusion it’s hard and sad to have a relationship with a lot of love but no commitment.

A relationship I could describe in which commitment was there but no love or feelings for each other: my parents. There were married for eighteen years. My mom got pregnant at sixteen; they decided to marry even though they were young. They were together for a long time and were committed to each other cause they had five kids, a house and cars. However they were not happy together and did not feel the same like when they were younger. They made a difficult decision and divorced. They both felt they didn’t want to stay together because they were not in love. They wanted to have a second chance to feel love again.

What this post made me learn was in order to have a stable long happy marriage you first need to have love and commitment in a relationship.

ONLINE OR FACE-TO-FACE RELATIONSHIPS

I would agree with some of the critics online. I think when you meet someone on line with out face- to- face interaction you are more likely to have deceit: Because there is a high chance of people lying about who they are. In face-to-face relationships you can actually see the person. I think People can meet online as friends and later decide to be in a relationship after seeing each other in person. I also don’t think it is ethical if people represent themselves inaccurately because they are not honest. I think people are more likely to lie in online relationships because the other person does not really know them. They only know them online. However I’m not saying that deception cannot happen in both kinds of relationships. People can lie to someone who is right in front of them as well. But I think it is a lot easier for someone to lie online because they could get away with it without the other person knowing.