PSEUDOLISTENING

Pseudolistening is when someone pretends to listen when someone is talking to them. I thought this was interesting because I do this a lot. Not because I’m trying to be rude or intentionally doing it either. Sometimes when someone is talking and just keeps ongoing I get bored and start to day dream; However, I act like I’m listening and nod but my mind is completeley in another place. I try not to be rude and let the other person talk but I would rather pretend to list then to just be blunt and say they are boring. Psuedolistening can also be used for good like the book stated with the flight attendent. I thought the example was really funny because I work as a cashier and it’s true people say the weirdest thing or they just won’t stop talking. I try not to be rude and pretend to listen but really I’m not and just trying to do my job. I do this all the time and I had no clue there was a word for it!

HATE SPEECH

I think hate speech should not be allowed even if it does violate are freedom of speech. People could get hurt by this cause words can turn into actions! bad actions like fighting or even killing someone. One bad things said to someone can cause chaos. Also i think it should be censored because its wrong and people don’t think of how it could affect someone else. Hate speech is described as racism. Racism should not be tolerated either because we are such a diverse society. So if hate speech is okay than people are saying racism is okay and it’s NOT. Therefore I do not think it should be allowed and people should get in trouble for using hate speech. I think people should work together as some sort of way as regulating what happens on and off the internet. Because hate speech can cause others to get violent towards other or themselves if it is not stopped.

Respect What Others Say about Their Feelings and Thoughts

I thought this concept was interesting cause I never really thought about this before reading this chapter. If one of your friends or even someone you meet has a conversation with you and they tell you something you don’t agree with don’t put them down for it. Because thats their own thought on something and everyone does not think the same! Usually I would say something and disagree which is anyones first instinct even if you do it in a polite way it still might hurt the other persons feeling. No one wants to be put down or have someone make them feel stupid for what they say.  Also if someone shares how the feel to you if its bad or good don’t always assume how they feel. Because really you don’t! However that doesn’t mean you cant be supportive and make them feel better; But, just don’t assume you really know how cause you could make the situation worse.

20 year olds from the past and present

A woman 40 years older than me: Eliza 

How was she expected to be? Eliza told me she was expected to be responsible, married, a good mother and house wife. How was she supposed to behave? She was to behave good and a role model to her kids. She was supposed to be a strong woman not weak. What were her goals? Her goals were to be a really good parent, finish college, and to do as good as she could in her job. What was considered an inappropriate attitude? Eliza said being disrespectful to anyone, not being loyal to her husband, and being prejudice of others.

A man 40 years older than me: Juan

How was he expected to be? Juan said he was expected to be friendly, athletic, courteous, happy, have a job, and go to college. How was he supposed to behave? He was supposed to behave responsible, polite, not wild, and smart. What where your goals? Juans goals were to by a home, have a family, and to own his own business. What was considered and inappropriate attitude? Being disrespectful to parents and elders, going out to much, not taking care of his responsibilities and family.

A woman 20 years older than me: Eva

How was she expected be? Eva was expected to be smart and know right from wrong. How was she suppose to behave? She was supposed to be responsible, and adult. What were her goals? Her goals were to get an education, become a good parent, a homeowner and get a good job. What was considered an inappropriate attitude? Eva said what was considered wrong was to put her self down, to go out to much, and to be irresponsible.

A man 20 years older than me:

How was he expected to be? He told me he was expected to be mature and responsible. How was he supposed to behave? He was to behave respectful, sometimes careless cause he was still young, he was to know right from wrong. What were his goals? His biggest goal was to get a higher education and to get a good job in computers. What was considered and inappropriate attitude? He said acting like a hoodlum, being disrespectful and being mean to others or putting others down.

Compared to a twenty year olds today I think twenty year old back then had better manners and goals. Most of todays twenty year old are reckless and somewhat careless. They do not have the same principles and respect for other like twenty year old back than did. However not all twenty year old are the same and share the same goals. But you can tell the expectations for young adults has gone down.

THE SELF IS MULTIDIMENSIONAL

I thought that the concept of “The Self is Multidimensional” was interesting because when you think of self you think of individual or one. However this idea say that the self is more than one thing cause of how we think of ourselves. When we start to describe ourselves there is multiple things we think of like how you look, think, act, your personality everything that makes YOU. There is so many thing we use to describe ourselves that I never thought about. For example when I start to think of who I am what comes to mind is multiple words that would express me: polite, talkative, short, a sister, a daughter, sensitive, upbeat, the list can go on and on.....  Not just for me but for everyone there is no one word that can be used to really show who we are. Therefore self can mean many things like physical self, cognitive self, self-concept, social self the list can keep going to describe one persons self.

Race?

Race is how people can classify themselves. It has to do with your culture, language, ways of life and so on. However not everyone is just one race. People tend to be more than one race now and days because we live in such a diverse society. Back then people did not believe in being with someone from a different race; although, this is very common for us because times have changed and there is not much racism (like before). I think race is a useful way to classify people as long as we can use more than one race to say who we are. Race works because it gives us a way to explain who we are in a short simple way. I do think the Census Bureau should allow us to check multiples races to define who we are because it would be a little hard to really say who we are by only checking one race. For example I would check Salvadorian, Mexican, Native American, and White because my family is very diverse. This is why I agree because I cannot say who I really am by only choosing one race because I am more than one race.

Introductory Post

Hi my name is Vanessa Ramirez I am 17 years old I am Salvadorian, Mexican, and Native American( Chumash). Right now my  major is undeclared I plan to change it however to business. My dream job is to some day become a CEO or to create my own company and run it. I do not have a lot of experience in communication. I chose this class to improve my skills and to learn more.